All throughout college, I prided myself on being busy. I was so anxious about my future success and what it took to get there that I developed tunnel vision. Then, I neglected the people, activities, and time that fueled me.
Sis! This can make someone sick. I know because it made me sick. My first year of college, I was diagnosed with depression. Naively, I took the diagnosis and went on about my business never seeking help. (Please take your mental health seriously, ladies!) The next year, I started therapy and continued for three years, but what I learned year two of therapy is to find the time for the people and the things that fuel my soul.
What exactly fuels your soul? What makes you feel most alive? Worry free? Thriving?
For me, it’s having food dates with my grandma, having life chats with my siblings, writing dancing writing, laughing with my friends, sun, sand, and ocean. Be intentional about fueling your soul because if your soul is empty you have nothing to give to the world. You’ll be a car running on empty.
Self-care is a major deal and when I realized the importance, I started small. YOU CAN TOO!
Here are 4 practical ways I give myself at least 10 minutes a day:
- Read a book.
Reading is one of my favorite solitary things to do. I’m really late, but I’m currently reading Issa Rae’s book The Misadventures of an Awkward Black Girl. I definitely prescribe to that stigma, so it’s completely relatable and funny for anyone not just an awkward black girl. I would recommend it. If you don’t like reading, there are also audiobooks. Pick a plot of grass or a comfy chair and plug in your headphones to listen to a good book. It reminds me of listening to the radio, but less interesting. I prefer hardbacks or e-books any day.
- Phone a friend or family member.
I’m not really good at this, but whenever I do call my friends just to talk, I feel rejuvenated. When you have the right friends around you, they know the right things to say to make you feel okay. My grandmother, who is also one of my closest friends, always gives me sound advice(sometimes even when I don’t want it) and because I know she loves me unconditionally I’m always willing to spill all the tea.
- Commune with nature (God).
Sundays are beach days. I selected Sunday because of obvious reasons (oh, because I assume the day will be sunny.), but while soaking in the sun I listen for God and sometimes even cry. Sometimes, he just tells me that he loves me. Other times, I gain wisdom for my current situation. In those moments of solitude, I feel the most relaxed and filled to the brim with God’s love. You can pick your favorite nature spot that makes you overflow with thankfulness.
- Dance like nobody’s watching.
I’m not just saying the quote because it’s cute (even though it definitely is), I actually do this. My favorite song to dance to is Ledisi’s song Shine. Connect your Bluetooth speakers, pick your favorite dance life anthem, and let your whole house know you’re gonna shine. (P.S. This is always better to do when your roommates are gone. They might just sneak and record your sassy moves.) Shake it off!
I named my four easy 10 minute soul fuelers.” What are some short activities you like to do to fuel your soul? Let me known in the Comments section.